OVER THE SEAS OR JUST BY LAND.

The topic seems interesting right? It means, overseas or not. You choose whether you want to pursue your tertiary education overseas or locally.

Of course, our fellow Malaysian students had been dreaming since primary to study abroad.Some of us show zero interest to study overseas and have a strong belief in our local universities. A question tickles the mentality of our citizen is that, why must Overseas?

It is fun guys. Judging from the social media, we know that it is so wealthy, luxurious and joyful living in another country. Yeah, you got to experience many activities of a lifetime that didn’t have in Malaysia. You get to play with snow. You can choose to play snowboarding. You can travel to any places you dreamt for. You can befriend with international students and practices their languages besides sharing culture and events. You can live in four season countries. You can do whatever you want!. However, are you sure that students out there living their life to the fullest? Alternatively, just an act to cover the painful experiences or regretful decisions? Stop being typical homo sapiens who always being judging and prejudice towards other and learn to understand their real life situations on what they are suffering. In other words, grasp the meaning of “empathy”.

Hmm, To me, I  can assure that life as a student regardless where you are studying is challenging. All students have their visions. We were not born to be on the same path. Every single course in this world has it is own difficulties and challenges. Don’t compare a medic student with an engineering student. Our society should minimize the act of discouraging and degrading people on what they do. Our community loves to criticize the other achievement and start to degrading them. These are awful. Could you please stop finding other people weaknesses? They have their roles, and we play our part. That is how we achieve peacefulness in our society. Don’t be so “nose-up” on what you do. Try to stay low as you can. 

Nowadays more and more student are eager to study abroad because they feel that studying abroad is better than studying local universities of our country. However, the students have their own where to study. They have owned reason to study locally or abroad. Both of universities, abroad or local have their uniqueness, as well as advantages and disadvantages. It depends on the students themselves on how they cope with it. Either face it or run away from it?.

where to go?

First of all, living far away from home, students will suffer from loneliness and homesickness. They spend less time with their family. Let us have a look on my calculation and observation. Since most overseas students were highly intelligent, at the age of 13 they need to go to boarding school until age 16-17.  During the break, while waiting for the result, some people choose to get some experiences of being employed either as a cashier, cleaner, promoter and so on. After passing the grueling interviews, they to have to further pre-u preparation locally; A-level, IB matriculation or foundation. If they achieved the requirements, they have to continue their tertiary education overseas as agreed .At the age 20, they already far away from their families. See, they only have about ten years spending time with their parents. After finishing their degree, they have to start their work. How time flies! We are busy growing up and forgetting our core responsibilities to our parents. When we realize, it is already late. Moreover, it’s for us to build a new empire, which is family! Overseas students often felt disoriented and depressed for lack of adequate knowledge and understanding of the local customs and lifestyle. They also exposed to culture shock and language barrier. Without proper guidance, some of the students lost in their ways and commit serious crimes such as pedophile, drug addict, and adultery. It is important for abroad students to find the right companions. I think language barriers is not a serious matter because eventually students themselves will able to blend with it.  Furthermore, many students do not want to return to their country after graduation because most of them want to seek a more comfortable life and brighter future overseas. Some students willing to pay all the debt to break the bond with the government and some sponsored students who are not having any deal to work in the country, they tend to choose to stay abroad instead of coming back home because they think they will get a higher salary. This may result in a serious brain-drain, and our country will inevitably incur an enormous loss of talents.

To this issues, some argued that abroad students have better quality than the local. Indeed, most sponsor will send the students to well-recognised and high-rank universities. Hence, it broadens the students’ horizon. For example, they get a chance to experience an entirely different culture. The knowledge of social customs acquired in the other countries helps them to become more open-minded. Experiencing new cultures, interacting with those with a background different from your own, seeing a different way of life, and experiencing the way other peoples do things is a positive, enhancing experience. It also encourages independence. It also enhances students soft-skills and communication skill that might help in the future. Within this respect, learning abroad can bolster up their confidence level, leadership-building and also equipping the student with the resourcefulness needed to be self-sufficient in a foreign country. Despite having a language barrier, it is the right time to master or at least, learning a foreign language.

Too many languages?

Also, they received a different education. The book resources are more up-to-date. The professors are aware of all the latest development in their fields. Therefore, the standard of teaching is much higher. However, before you study abroad, you must the check the standard and qualities of teachings there especially to self-sponsored students.

It is quite understandable that people from different backgrounds put different interpretations on the same issue. For my part, I stand in the latter opinion that while the overseas study has its drawbacks, the advantages are more obvious. However, different people have different opinions.

To local graduates, don’t ever feel downgraded and always compare with you friends who study overseas. All has His plans for you. Believe in Him.

To abroad students, you have to do your best in all aspects: Attitude, Education and Status. Don’t ever feel too arrogant and look other people as a low-class person. You have to remember, Allah had chosen you to represent your family and country to make our life better. Final remember, barber, carpenter, teacher, gardener and so on, they pay the taxes so that you can pursue your dreams. As a reward to them, don’t let the government spent worthless  finance to support you. You carry a huge burdened on your backs.

Good luck life. Goodluck in Hereafter. May Allah granted us with the highest achievement, ~HEAVEN~

DOT People Versus BIG Picture People

Does the title speak itself? I’m quite sure most of you didn’t get it in the beginning. Don’t worry, I’m going to explain briefly about it. Just take a deep breath…. Fuh~

Let us grab a pencil and simply draw a dot on a piece of white paper. What can see?.. Obviously just a dot right? Then try to elaborate that tiny dot. Let me explain in my terms.

First and foremost, I can say that dot people are those who afraid of challenges. They feel very safe in their comfort zone. They didn’t think any other initiative ways to make their life feel better. Secondly, this kind of person doesn’t look every hardship as a dead end. They didn’t take it as an opportunity or thinking of the solutions. They should have taken the chance to right the wrong instead of trying to ignore and just let the time passing by. In contrast, they take an opportunity on other people’s wrong without guiding them the right way. Other than that, Dot people love to look upon small matters and debating unnecessary issues. They also keen on discussing small mistakes as it should never be done. Remember, homo sapiens were not born to be a perfectionist.  Back to the definition, Dot people also like to mock and cynically think about those who are running towards their dreams. They are thinking as a pessimist, not an optimist.  Besides, they feel envious when looking other people achievements without giving any approbations. In a very simple word, Dot people are those who have “narrow-minded” development in their brains.

On the other side, instead of drawing a dot, try to expand your ideas by continuing your sketch and be a BIG PICTURE PEOPLE. Are you ready?

Big picture people are those who always look difficulties as opportunities and try their best to find the solutions. Also, Big picture people encourage other people who are facing failures in their life. They give motivations and provide alternative ways to deal with it. Big picture people care about the other and choose to not having a solitude life. Living in society is a must. These people rarely confined themselves and enjoyed life with the virtual world. Instead, they enjoy being part of the community and communicate with each other via the mouth, not WhatsApp or Telegram. Furthermore,  these type of people always put a target in daily life. Everyday must have something special. They are getting bored of the routine that keep circling in their life’s cycle.

Do the explanations enough? So, let’s have a look a few examples of Dot people behaviours that happen in our daily life. Can’t you see them?

Did you realise that most of our community have the mentality of judging a person based on the first impression? They simply accused them falsely and spread the words to the other. Eee, how discourage is that. When a couple of guys selfie together in one picture and those keyboard-warriors accused them to be GAY. Oh Gosh!. They haven’t met for a long time and they tried to share the happiness with the world.They wanted to expose to the world the sweetness in friendship.So, who cares? Only Dot people try to steal that happiness. When Dot people see burglar pleading for donation, they accused them to be double agent who works with illegal society or at worst, only a disguise to buy the sympathy. Could you please shut up? If you didn’t like them just ignore them but please don’t make up any story of that pathetic human. Who knows what really happened to her/him? If you look at the title of this blog, Dot people will think that I have a dirty mind because using the word ‘virgin’. Oh, Come on man! Wake up. Does this word exist to portray bad words all the time?. Does gay always mean homo-relationship? It can also be considered to describe of being happy. Besides, our people easily  fall trap in those lies from the mass media.  Without further investigation, they simply judge people without knowing the real situation or stories, or at worst, they just read the title and give their opinions on that matter. How dumb our people. Yeah, when asked to finished your education with flying colours, you give filthy excuses about your failure and didn't learnt from it.

Other than that, as mentioned before, Dot people feel uneasy with other persons achievement. When a person just started a job, dot people discourse them by saying the job is not suit you at all or not having high salary and they will not long lasting for the job. Again, who cares? At least, they are doing something in their life rather than wasting time with social medias. When dot people see other people graduates with a good career ahead, they simply told the graduates that their career are not in demand or their qualifications are not enough or disqualified. How can our society have positive minds? Because we are drowning in this kind poor mentality.

Last but not least, Dot people are those who are being too humble and always think negatively when other people are talking about themselves. Being humble is not the problem. The problem is that with unnecessary ‘humbleness’ in certain situations. For instance, when a person is praising how beautiful are you today or how nice is your attire, dot people didn't take that as motivations but they denied the words with shy face or at worst, accused them of being sarcastic. Some “ narrow-minded” Muslim think that human should not be praised. Does Islam prohibit approbation? Then why you do ‘selawat’ to our Prophet Muhammad s.a.w? Islam is beautiful. In psychology school, praising is important as a vitamin to our soul. It can be taken as self-motivation and increase your mood for the whole day. When a person is praising you, the easiest way to acknowledge them is by saying “ THANK YOU” and praise him/her back. Can we have a nice conversation for the whole day? Can we really have tranquility with each other in this world this kind of mentality?

In a nutshell, which side are you? DOT or BIG.

If you are DOT, don’t worry there is always space for you sketch your life. Remember, you are the one who hold the peacock feathers and the black ink is just beside you. You decide yourself.

Best wishes from me and have a lovely day.